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What Kind of Mother….?

September 2nd, 2009

booThe opportunity was ripe. I heard Harrison in the kitchen and tiptoed up the stairs to the adjacent dining room. He was humming to himself, and I heard the hiss of an opened Gatorade bottle. A cabinet door creaked and slammed, and the clang of ice cubes rattled in a glass. I could just hear Harrison’s smugness, pleased to be surrounding himself with his favorite delectables. Finally, the crinkling and rip of a bag of chips punctuated the end of his mission. 

I pressed my back up against the wall, trying to predict his exit route. I knew he was in the middle of reading a book, which was splayed spine-up on the living room table below. I thought he might walk through the hallway on my left, the most direct path to his destination.He had his treats, and he was in a zone. Sure enough, I heard the pad of his jock-sock footsteps. Read the rest of this entry »

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Fly Away

August 31st, 2009

imagesI walked into my bedroom and looked at the alarm clock- it was 6:50 am. I had just dropped off Olivia at the rendezvous point for her Girl Scout rafting trip. For the first time in six years, it was a Girl Scout outing I would not be joining, the price of being in graduate school where I would spend the day.

She and I had left our house when it was still dark, the tree-lined streets of our community motionless in the predawn hours. “I can’t believe its still dark out, ” Olivia said from the back seat of the car.

“Makes it feel more special, don’t you think?” I answered.

Life always feels simple and pure in the early morning hours.  I was still in that mindset when I returned home less than an hour later. I switched on my bedside lamp and heard a loud buzzing from the lampshade. I peered inside, expecting to find an agitated fly. Instead I found a nice, plump bee. Read the rest of this entry »

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Movie Night

August 29th, 2009

movie_night“Good news, kids!  It’s movie night!!”

I always love movie night at home with Harrison and Olivia. We make popcorn on the stovetop, pour sodas and sports drinks over ice, grab a bag of sweets, and load it all onto a tray with our special old-fashioned red-and-white striped individual popcorn containers.  We spread two blankets over our three laps and feel festive before we even hit “play” on the DVD player.

So I was a little taken aback when, after my announcement,  Harrison and Olivia sighed in unison and say, “Oh, no.”

 ”What? What is it?”

They exchanged knowing glances. ”Is it an inspirational movie?” Olivia shook her head. Read the rest of this entry »

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Excellent

August 27th, 2009

400px-CharlesCrockerTompA few evenings ago I ducked out of the house to go on a walk. I needed to clear my head, and a hike always does the trick. Not wanting to leave the kids alone for too long (will there ever be a day when I don’t see them as little children?), I opted for one of my favorite routes – a walk through a nearby cemetery.

Granted, this was not just any cemetery. Designed by Frederick Olmstead, the landscape architect who created the masterpiece of Central Park, this cemetery is particularly beautiful. I entered through my secret passageway – a path that leads to a field that leads to the upper-most point of the park – and made my way through the meandering lanes. Low headstones dotted with bouquets of spring colors, the grass a particularly crisp shade of green, I immediately felt calmed. I wasn’t alone in embracing the ambience. There were a few parked cars along the way, some whose passengers remained in the seats.

I was enjoying my quiet time when I found my stride was catching up with another walker. I noticed was he was wearing flip flops.  “Those are not good for hiking,” I noted to self, then wondered why I cared. His pace was slower than mine, so I was forced into the awkward pedestrian-pass. I didn’t want to seem rude passing him, but truthfully, I wanted to get moving. After all, my kids were home alone.

I turned to my right as I passed him. Read the rest of this entry »

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A Smile Gone, A Spirit Everlasting

August 13th, 2009

imagesIt almost seems too sacred and private to share in a blog. Yet, I know no other way to express my sadness than to write about it. And knowing that we all connect through our experiences, I believe this eulogy will resonate with people who have suffered the loss of a loved one.

My beloved brother-in-law, Marshall, died yesterday. He was my sister-in-law’s husband. He was everyone’s best friend. We were not shocked by the loss. He had fought an incredible battle with cancer, and more than tripled the life expectancy the doctors gave him. Yet, I can’t quite grasp that I will not see that big smile of his again. Or hear his quick wit.

The thing about Marshall (as if there were one thing) is that his smile was his baseline expression. When he entered a room, he didn’t do so in a grandiose way – he did it in a joyous way, which is why his smile seemed permanent. It was as if he was getting a perpetual kick out of life. Read the rest of this entry »

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The Power of Joy

August 9th, 2009

mitsi dancing school“My friend just sent me this link,” I told Harrison and Olivia. “It’s supposed to be really fun.”

As I pulled up the youtube video, they stopped me before I clicked play.

“Oh, yeah!” They said. “Dad showed it to us!”

I read the caption. At 17 million views, I can see how the odds were that they had, indeed, seen it. But I hadn’t, so I clicked on.

Within moments I was dancing in my chair with the wedding party. Soon tears welled in my eyes, and I noticed I had a huge smile on my face. The unadulterated joy of the wedding party was captivating. It reminded me when millions of us fell in love with  “Where the Hell is Matt?”,  as he danced with people across the globe. It just feels SO GOOD to feel the joy in these videos. It made me realize that, despite news of layoffs, real estate market woes and financial stress, it pales in comparison to the power of spreading joy. Read the rest of this entry »

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Home

July 30th, 2009

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I just returned from a stunning two-hour bike ride with Gonzalo, my brother-in-law. We left his house as the sun was rising, and biked through the rolling hills of Wisconsin farmland. At certain points I was sure I was plucked from my sister’s house and inserted into a gorgeous landscape painting. In a couple of hours, my sister Chrissy and our kids will awaken, and we’ll drive out to a farmhouse we’ve rented, where the rest of the family will join us for a long weekend – twenty-plus people all together.

I am home.

Recently, at book events, it occurred to me that I am perceived as someone who left one life behind to embrace another.

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A video from my son

July 15th, 2009

What can I say? I just can’t give up this blog. While  The New Jew Blog focuses on all things related to interfaith nuances and conversion, this blog is about, well, life! And, as we all know, life is in the moments.

One of those moments is still with me. Last May had many a momentous occasion – Harrison’s bar mitzvah and my book publishing among them. Yet, there is one day that stands out amongst those: Mother’s Day. Harrison and Olivia always pull out the stops, and it never fails to leave me thinking, “What did I do to deserve such thoughtfulness? Olivia made me an incredible diorama of my love for the country and cattle drives. Harrison expressed himself through his recent love of filmmaking.  Check out what he made for me.

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Life After the Mikvah

July 13th, 2009

images“What we really need is a place to talk about what happens next,” a reader recently suggested at my book signing table.

“Next?” I asked.

“Yes. What happens after you convert. Because, I have to tell you, things got very interesting for me after I converted.”

It was something I had considered myself. While I identify myself as many things, and not any one thing – mother, Californian, New Yorker, Midwesterner, Jew, friend, single, green builder, student – there are many times when my identity as a convert comes up.

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A Whole Lot of Nothing

June 16th, 2009

images-1 It is June 16th, and it hardly seems like summer has started. Overcast and cool, time seems to stand still on days like these. The kids love it, as do I.

“Pajama day!” they’ve declared for the last four days, when their school year ended. That’s code for, “We’re not getting dressed today. No matter what.” It includes going on errands or playing outside. They even talked me into joining them on their summer dress code yesterday. I lasted till 1:00 p.m.

It’s not that things haven’t been eventful since summer officially started. Family, friends and new faces joined me in my Oakland book launch party last week – a wonderful event of book signing, reading, trivia contest and most importantly – gratitude. We celebrated Harrison’s 13th birthday the next day (could it really be I’m the parent of a teenager now? Strange, that he’s getting older and I’m not). Read the rest of this entry »

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